Sunday, March 21, 2010

Oh My Goodness

So there was this post on this blog about how the writer did not define herself as a feminist because... she doesn't agree with equality or something like that.

I know that everyone is entitled to sharing their opinion. Just read comments on a blogpost (especially controversial ones) and you get some entertaining results.

But sometimes it isn't entertaining; it is infuriating.

With the original post, I don't have too much problem with. It sounded like she just doesn't understand what equality and feminism are.

But with the comments. Oh My. (Hence the title.)

Here's a particularly bad one.

I don't get the "feminist movement". Really? In the last 100 years or so, we've decided there needs to be a we really think women were SO bad off before? No! We were, for the most part, right were we wanted to be. Supposed to be! I don't believe my husband is my equal, I believe I am HIS helper but he treats me with respect, loves me and consults me on almost everything. 

First the good: Her husband treats her with respect, loves her and consults with her.

But really? So before, women didn't want to vote, go to college, or be in certain professions. And now woman don't want to earn as much as men doing the same exact job. If a hundred years ago woman wanted to be in the place they were in, we still wouldn't be able to vote. That's why change happens. People decide they don't like they way things are, and do something to change it.

And then, "I don't believe my husband is my equal, I believe I am HIS helper."

I am so grateful for a husband who sees me as his equal and doesn't let me think any other way. That does not mean we are the same. We are different, no doubt. But that doesn't mean we aren't equal. One plus One Equals Two. But One plus One is not the same as Two. And I believe that I am my husband's helper, but he is also mine.

I bet that if this woman's husband is as great as she said he is, he wouldn't let her describe herself as not his equal, I hope.

I could go on and on. There was a plethora of stupidity. But I'll stop here.

I know that to a lot of people, the word feminist has a bad connotation. And maybe some feminists go to the extreme. But I consider myself a feminist because I do believe that all woman should be treated equal and should be given equal rights. And as a feminist I can choose whatever career I want. I can be a lawyer, a teacher or a stay at home mom. That is my right.

I think the original poster was just thinking about herself and her world. And while in America woman aren't treated as equal as they should, we don't have it the worst. Go to a place like Saudi Arabia and tell those woman that they are exactly where they want to be. Maybe a few are, but I can't imagine that some of them wouldn't love to be treated more equally.

I know life isn't fair and it never will be. But that doesn't mean we knock those who try to make a difference.


Symantha said...

I love you A LOT. I admire your intelligence and the fact that you're NOT ignorant. And...I thought you didn't like the word plethora?